Ever wonder why some people excel and others seem incapable of doing anything right? You probably know people who hit home runs no matter what they do. We call them “naturals.” They’re just plain good.
But how did they get that way? Surely you know more people who aren’t naturals. They not only don’t hit home runs every time, they seldom hit a home run. What’s different about these people and more importantly if you’re not a natural, why not? What’s different about you? And what can you do, if anything, to become a natural?
Many years ago, David Sandler discovered a rule of human relations that determines how well a person will perform in all areas of life, regardless of education, practice, and training. It’s a very simple rule, and once you learn it, you can no doubt put it to use to improve the quality of your life.
They discovered their life is two-fold. They are an individual. They have desires, beliefs, dreams, and goals. That is their “I”. It’s who they are. The second part of their life is their role or their “R”. It’s what they do on the job.
Successful people learn to separate their “I” and their “R”. They don’t allow the negativity or failure on the “R” side of their life to affect the “I” part of their life. A loss at work does not affect them personally. They learn to deal with the failure and quickly move on to the next challenge.
When bad things happen, you have two choices. You can go hide in the corner and suck your thumb, or you can remember that your “I” is always a 10 and trust in yourself.
